Learn To Say No More Often!

The word “no” may be short, yet it carries a significant amount of weight. It is accompanied by an unseen power that has the potential to make it seem excessively burdensome, or even like a term that should be avoided. 

We are frequently instructed that the word “no” is an unfavourable response, that it is harmful to people and that it results in us missing out on fresh and exciting chances. It’s no surprise that so many people avoid bringing it up in conversations.  It would seem like a selfless thing to do to ignore our own thoughts, feelings, and requirements. After all, people are taught that it is more appropriate to give than to receive. 

However, the fact that it is simpler to respond positively does not indicate that we should do so. You are not insulting someone when you say “no,” and you are not saying that you hate them or it’s not an insult. You are simply expressing your right to say “no.” Consider the instances in either your career or personal life in which you said “yes” to doing something, only to afterwards feel resentment at yourself or the person to whom you said yes.  What emotions did it evoke in you? At that time you may have wished that you’d go back through time and exercise your right to refuse.

It’s important to remember that there are instances when it’s better to take a step back, examine the situation, and consider whether or not it will truly be good for you and the people around you. Finally, keep in mind that you have the right to refuse. 

Saying no does not imply that you are participating in some kind of unchangeable ego trip. It indicates that you are refusing the request made of you because it conflicts with your values or your schedule, which is perfectly acceptable.